31 flavors of stuck
You’re stuck. And you’re over it. Or ready to be over it. Maybe you’re stuck in a rut, or tangled up in old patterns, or hanging out somewhere you just don’t want to be anymore. You want to move forward, but right now you’re just going in circles.
Maybe you’re working to change something – or a whole lot of somethings – but you’re not having much luck. You’ve seen a few small shifts, but you’re not making any big progress. Change comes. Change goes. The landscape looks pretty much the same.
Or maybe you feel like you’re trying to push a great big boulder up a great big hill. No matter what you do – no matter how hard you work or how hard you push or how much you try to will it to happen – it just isn’t happening. You’re worried you can’t push much longer. And worried about what will happen to that boulder when you let go.
Maybe you’re stuck because you’re in pain. Something hurts. Maybe it’s your body, your mind, your heart, your soul. Maybe it’s a relationship you’re in, or a choice you made, or a path you picked. Something definitely hurts. And you’re ready for it not to hurt anymore. Maybe you’re even ready to actually feel good.
You could be struggling because you feel lost. You obviously took a wrong turn somewhere, but you’re not sure how you got where you are. And you have no idea how to get to someplace better. It’s like someone has flipped the off switch on your inner GPS.
Maybe you don’t just feel lost. Lost would be a step up from where you are, which is totally shut down. Unplugged. Disconnected. Out of touch. And not just with yourself. But also with your life. And with the people around you. You feel kind of like a zombie (minus the whole eating brains thing). You want to feel alive again.
Maybe something great big has happened, bringing with it some great big stuck. Something happened that was so painful, so scary, so unexpected that it’s like it froze you in time. Immediate, deep, oh-my-god-this-hurts-so-much sort of stuck. You’re not sure you can ever recover. You feel permanently broken.
Or maybe stuck and struggle have been hanging around for so long that you figure they’ll always be there. It could have started as little stuck or big stuck, but it’s evolved into always around stuck. A part of you feels like stuck and struggle are always going to be crashing on your couch and leaving their ick all over your life.
No matter how you slice it, stuck sucks.
Why you feel like nothing works on your stuck
You may have tried all sorts of stuff (and spent all sorts of money) trying to deal with your stuck.
Meditation. Affirmations. Creative visualization. Psychics. Law of attraction. Therapy. Exercise. Buying a ton of books. Taking a bunch of classes. Talking to a bunch of expert-ey people who all promise to have the one great big secret insight that will change everything.
None of it has brought you results you want.
It’s not that any of these things are bad. In fact, they’re all perfectly fine options. They have their place. But they may not be enough to help you shift the stuff you need to shift.
Why not?
Because change starts at the energy level. And if you don’t work at that level, it’s virtually impossible to experience lasting change.
There’s energy behind everything you experience. Including stuck and struggle. In fact, every experience starts as energy. It’s like the energy is a blueprint that directly shapes what shows up.
Shifting the energy behind something makes it a hundred times easier to shift that something. Changing the blueprint changes what shows up in your life. So energy level is just another way of saying the place where change happens fast.
On the other hand, trying to shift stuff without shifting the energy behind it is hard. Like trying-to-rub-your-belly-and-pat-your-head-at-the-same-time hard. You’re going one direction, while the energy is going another. A tug-of-war ensues. And shifting stuff while being stuck and in a tug-of-war? That’s a great big bunch of hard.
Since it’s a lot easier to shift stuff by working on stuck at the energy level, it makes the most sense to start there. Sacred sound is the most effective way I know to do that. It goes to the roots, and changes the energy behind your stuff so that your stuff can shift.
Deeply. Completely. Once and for all.
Before my trip to Cincinnati to receive a sacred sound session from Fabeku, I had my doubts as to whether or not this work would even benefit me.
I’ve had ongoing challenges with intimacy and self-esteem, the result of years of abuse I suffered as a child. I had no idea how sacred sound was going to be able to help me. I was convinced that my issues were far too big for something that, on the surface, seemed too simple to work.
But I’m glad I didn’t let that fool me! My sacred sound session with Fabeku was one of the most awesome, healing, and powerful experiences of my life. I felt an immediate shift in my body, mind, and spirit – deep shifting!
I feel like a new person. My husband has definitely noticed a change, and I’ve found myself more open to giving and receiving affection. I’ve also noticed that my capacity to Love myself has increased exponentially. I’m more in tune with my needs, and more able to tend to those needs.
When I’m tired, I sleep. When I’m hungry, I eat. These may seem like natural things, but these were challenges for me before.
Overall, I’m enjoying a greater sense of well-being and peace, and I just feel very balanced. I would recommend a sacred sound session for anyone who is looking for something truly transformational. This is amazing work, facilitated by an amazing person! I’m really looking forward to my next session.
Thank you, Fabeku!
Tami Baragry
Ravenna, Ohio
Over the last 18 years I have worked with hundreds of people from all around the world. People in all sorts of different situations. People with all different kinds of stuck.
In that time, I’ve seen a whole lot of stuck shift into a whole lot of awesome. Again and again and again. And I’ve seen a whole lot of lives get a whole lot better through sacred sound.
Because of that, I feel totally confident saying that sacred sound can help you to say buhbye to stuck and struggle, and hello to a big bunch of awesome! It can help you make the changes you want, and get the results you need.
And I get that you may be interested in this sacred sound thing, but not totally sure. Maybe you’re a little skeptical. Or maybe you have some questions. Totally normal and totally ok.
The ubiquitous FAQ
These are some of the questions I get asked a lot. Maybe your questions are here too.
What does a sacred sound session look like? What exactly do you do? Do you sit on me and hum in my face?
Let’s get the big question out of the way from jump street. There will be no sitting on you and no humming in your face. Ever.
I know the idea of a sacred sound session can sound sort of mysterious, or wacky, or just plain weird. Especially if you’ve never had one. So let’s take away the mystery and eliminate any worries of weirdness. Ok?
When you show up, I’ll say hi and smile. Because that’s totally the polite way to greet someone, right? If we were Eskimos we’d rub noses, but since we’re not, rubbing noses would be weird. So I’ll stick to hey and a smile.
After we’ve not rubbed noses done the hey-and-a-smile thing, we’ll spend five or ten minutes talking. About what’s going on for you. About where you’re at. And, most of all, about where you want to be when we’re finished. We’ll make sure we’re on the same page before we get started.
The fancy pants folks call this part setting your intention, but, because I don’t wear fancy pants, I call it spending a few minutes yacking it up.
And while we’re yacking it up, you can tell me as much or as little as you want. I don’t pry for details or try to get you to talk about stuff you don’t want to talk about. Whatever you’re comfortable sharing is totally fine.
After our chat, you’ll lie down on a massage table. And no worries, you’re totally clothed the entire time. You’re even welcome to cover up with a sheet or blanket, if you want. Since I don’t do any hands-on stuff, there is no touching at any point during the session.
Once you’re comfy, you’ll close your eyes (or leave them open – whatever you want) and take a few deep breaths to relax. Then we’re ready to roll.
For the next 40 or so minutes, you’ll be partaking of sacred sound inspired awesomesauce. Which usually starts with me playing my hoop drum, and then maybe a rattle or two. From there I’ll play some singing bowls, or tuning forks, or a gong, and maybe some more rattling. I wrap things up by playing the hoop drum again.
You don’t have to do anything special while I’m playing. You don’t have to meditate, or think about your intention, or visualize the stuff you want to see shift. I mean, you can if you want to, but you’re totally welcome to just take it easy and hang out with the sound.
Sacred sound does its thing no matter what you’re doing. It’s pretty low maintenance like that.
I get that you’ll probably experience some ooh-ey goo-ey relaxation during your session. I’m sensitive to that. Which means I won’t wait until you’re all chilled out and then bang a gong as loud as I can next to your ear. That’s obnoxious and wouldn’t be cool. So I won’t do that.
And speaking of being chill, at the end of your session you’ll have plenty of time to make your way gently back to your regular state. No rush. No boom-we’re-done-buhbye while you’re still all ooh-ey goo-ey relaxed.
When you’re all present and accounted for, we’ll talk. I’ll share any impressions that I had during your session. Stuff I saw while hanging out at the energy level watching your stuff shift. Stuff that may give you some insights into what kind of awesome showed up. Stuff that may be generally helpful for you to know.
I’ll also record these impressions and send them to you as an mp3 file, so you don’t have to worry about taking pages of notes right after your great big dance with awesome. Most people really dig having this recording to refer back to later.
Before we finish, you’ll have the chance to ask questions and share your experience of the session. But only if you want to share. It’s totally optional and totally not necessary.
Ok, no humming in my face. Cool. But what do I feel like during the session?
It’s different for everyone.
Some people feel ridiculously relaxed – like I’ve-just-melted-into-a-big-huge-pile-of-yum relaxed. Other people experience a deep sense of stillness. All the pushing and pulling of struggle stops. All the poking and prodding of stuck vanishes. And you’re snuggled up in this place of really deep silence.
Some people feel like they’re being massaged by the sound. Every bit of ouch and ick and ugh goes away. Every knot gets unknotted with the quickness. Everything that trips you up disappears. This kind of massage? Way better than a thousand bars of the world’s best chocolate.
And sometimes people fall asleep.
What?
Fall asleep in the middle of a bunch of sound?
I know it may sound surprising, but it happens. A lot. And it’s totally ok if it does. In fact, it’s more than ok. It rocks. Because it means you’re swimming in a big sea of awesome, filling up with bliss juice. And don’t worry about missing something if you fall asleep. You won’t miss a thing. I promise.
So how am I going to feel when we’re done?
Most people say they feel really refreshed, like they’ve just spent a week on vacation. Or had a killer massage. Or been pampered in an ooh-la-la spa – you know, the kind with that fancy fruit water.
Then there’s the shifting.
Some people feel the effects immediately. After an hour they look and feel like a totally different person. That’s awesome to see! Getting rid of great big stuck, and filling up with all kinds of awesome is like a makeover for the soul.
Other people’s stuff shifts in the days following their session. The awesomeness cooks for a minute and then starts to take root, changing ick into wow! And that’s cool to see too. Because seeing stuck and struggle take off is always reason to do a happy dance.
The vast majority of folks I work with tell me that after their session they have a ton of new energy, that life looks brighter and cooler and easier and a whole lot better. They can’t believe how much has shifted, how quickly it happened and how easy it was.
A lot of people have also told me they feel this deep sense of momentum after their session. It’s like the sacred sound not only clears out the stuck and struggle, and brings in a bunch of awesome, but it also provides this deep support that makes it easier to keep on keepin’ on until you end up exactly where you want to be.
Being refreshed and full of new energy and woo-hooing about stuff shifting is awesome. But what changes in your day to day life after a session?
You’re happier.
You’re more at peace.
You’re more in the flow.
Good stuff happens. Easier and way more often than before.
You feel clearer about stuff. Big stuff. Little stuff. All stuff.
You don’t trip as much, because there’s way less to trip over.
You feel I’m-like-a-bird free, because you’re not lugging a bunch of stuck and struggle around anymore.
And your life just feels like a thousand kinds of awesome.
I get that these may sound like big promises, especially if you’re up to your eyes in stuck. But this is exactly what I’ve seen happen again and again for people after a sacred sound session.
I don’t pretend that sacred sound fixes everything or that in the course of an hour every problem you have disappears. That’s not realistic.
But, in the course of an hour, I’ve seen great big change happen for one person after another after another.
People buried in stuck. People overwhelmed with struggle. People skeptical about whether anything could make things any different. People not that much different than you.
But my stuck is big/deep/scary/hard. Can sacred sound handle that? Can you handle that?
I know it’s all kinds of scary when you want to change, but you’re worried your stuck is too big. It’s pretty terrifying to feel like your stuck is the one stuck that sacred sound can’t fix. It just feels too big, too deep, too scary or too hard to be budged by someone playing a drum and some tuning forks.
Can I tell you something?
I actually hear this a lot. The majority of people I work with have told me that, going into this, they felt like their stuck was the one stuck that would cause sacred sound to strike out.
Do you know when I hear this the most?
After their stuff has shifted. After they’re breathing easier. After they realize that their stuck – as great big, really deep and very scary as it was – wasn’t immune to sacred sound’s stuck-shifting mojo.
Sacred sound can stand face to face with big/deep/scary/hard stuck. It can work with it bit by bit, shifting it at the place where it started. And, when it’s finished, it leaves a whole bunch of awesome where the stuck used to be.
Because awesome is bigger and more powerful than stuck. Your basic nature at a soul level is to gravitate toward good stuff. And even great big, really deep and very scary stuck can’t alter your basic nature. Even if you’ve been stuck for so long that you’ve forgotten what awesome looks like.
Here’s what I can say with absolute certainty. I have never seen anyone leave a sacred sound session with the same amount of stuck as they had when they showed up. Not one single person.
Sacred sound can definitely handle the big/deep/scary/hard stuck.
And I can handle it too.
I’ve worked with people who’ve had virtually every variety and degree of stuck imaginable. Including people with great big, really deep and very scary stuck.
Horrific abuse. Crippling addiction. Chronic pain. Deep depression. Paralyzing fear. Profound hopelessness.
I’m not afraid of it. I’ve seen it. And I’ve seen sacred sound shift it.
I know there’s a part of you that’s bigger than even your biggest stuck. You might have forgotten about that bigness. But I haven’t.
And that bigness? That’s what sacred sound speaks to. That’s what sacred sound feeds. That’s how sacred sound supports you in shifting stuck. Even great big, really deep and very scary stuck.
Yeah, but will I have to schedule 319 sessions before I see a difference?
I totally get this question.
I’m always hesitant to try some new something before I know how much time (and money) it’s going to take before things start to look different.
I also feel kind of trick-bagged when someone waits until after my first session (and after they have my money) to tell me that I’ll need a bunch more sessions to get where I want to go.
Ugh.
It’d be nice to know that up front, wouldn’t it?
So, no trick-bags here. Because it sucks to trick-bag people.
How many sessions will you need?
Here’s the straight answer.
Most stuck shifts fast with sacred sound. Some stuck shifts totally in one session. Great big stuck, or really deep stuck, may take three or four sessions to shift. Even but-my-stuck-is-freaking-ginormous stuck will shift profoundly, if not completely, after six or seven sessions.
The truth is every single person I’ve worked with has seen their stuff shift significantly after one sacred sound session. Multiple sessions will help you to maintain the stuck-shifting momentum, which is great for the bigger, deeper and been-around-for-awhile varieties of stuck.
It’s totally fine to schedule one session. You’ll get a lot out of it. And if you dig it, you can always schedule more.
I’m sure that after one session you’ll see some stuff shift. Sure enough that I’ll guarantee it. And not just any guarantee, but a chocolate-and-peanut-butter guarantee.
You can find all the details below, but the short version is that if you don’t feel like the session was helpful, you get your money back and I’ll do my best to refer you to someone else that may be able to help you.
I get that sacred sound is great at dealing with stuck. But do I have to be stuck to have a session?
Nope.
Sacred sound is pretty amazing at shifting stuff, working magic on stuck and making struggle head for the hills. But it also amps up the awesome on non-problem-ey stuff too.
So you don’t have to have a big hairy problem to get all sorts of coolness from sacred sound. And you don’t have to wait until stuck and struggle show up to have a session.
In fact, you’ll probably see a whole lot less of both if you work with sacred sound when things are already cooking in awesomesauce. Because sacred sound keeps things flowing and moving in the direction of the good schtuff, which means way less room for stuck and struggle to show up and stink things up.
So you can bring your problem-ey stuff and your awesome-ey stuff. Sacred sound works with both in equally radtastic ways.
Sacred sound session at-a-glance (aka If you’re skimming, read this part)
Every sacred sound session includes the following bits of goodness:
- A totally free & totally optional 15-minute consultation conversation (to make sure it’s a good fit)
- A 60-75 minute session (a metric megaton of awesome!)
- An mp3 recording of the stuff I saw during your session (so you can revisit the awesome again & again)
- Free follow-up support within seven days after your session (start-to-finish support, because that’s how I roll)
- The chocolate & peanut butter guarantee (no risk, no worries)
How much does it cost?
Each sacred sound session is $175.
The aforementioned Chocolate & Peanut Butter Guarantee
I want what I do to be helpful for you. I don’t want you to pay me if what I did didn’t help. I also don’t want you to worry about paying for something that you may not dig. I know how much that sucks.
So, if you don’t feel your session was helpful, just tell me when we’re finished and it’s free. No worries. No hassle. No hard feelings. I’ll give you your money back. And we’ll still be friends.
In fact, not only will I give you back your money, I’ll do my best to refer you to someone else that might be able to help. Someone that I trust and have worked with personally.
Because not paying for something that wasn’t helpful is one thing, but if you get your money back and still have your stuck and struggle then you’re in the same place you were before we met. And that’s not cool.
So, that’s the chocolate and peanut guarantee. Because chocolate is good by itself, but when you add peanut butter? It’s twist-and-shout good.
Why do I offer this guarantee?
Because being stuck is hard. Being worried about spending money on something that you’re not sure will help makes things even harder. I want to eliminate that extra level of hard, and make it easier for you to feel more comfortable getting from stuck to awesome.
And because I know that sacred sound rocks, and can shift all kinds of stuff with superhero-like skill. I have seen it help hundreds and hundreds of people. I’m totally confident that it will help you. And I’m totally comfortable standing behind that 100%.
I honestly wasn’t sure what to expect from the Sacred Sound session. I knew it involved drumming but had no other ideas about it.
I was not skeptical about the sincerity of the work or of Fabeku but certainly wasn’t expecting the level of healing I received. I guess I expected the drumming to just bring my issues to light so that I could deal with them and clear them out of my current experience.
During the session I could feel the vibration of the drum directly addressing my particular issues. I could also feel that Fabeku was completely aware of this as well. He moved around the room always ending up in exactly the right space to facilitate the process.
I felt completely safe which allowed me fully open to my experience and really let go and allow healing to take place.
When the session was over I felt amazing. The impressions that Fabeku shared with me after the session helped me to understand and integrate the experience. I did not expect the healing to be so complete. As I said earlier, I expected to have to work on the issues that came up but that has not been my experience at all.
It is almost as if those old issues are just gone. The only “work” I am having to do is to retrain myself to approach life through my new healed and whole perspective instead of the limited one that I was seeing the world through before the session.
This work is amazing and I absolutely recommend it to anyone who feels drawn to it. Fabeku is deeply in tune with this work and a wonderful facilitator. I am now living my life with joy, peace and centeredness instead of fear, pain and low expectations.
I feel much more connected to who I really am and so much more at peace with everything.
Rena Becker
Cincinnati, Ohio
The next step
Are you ready to schedule your sacred sound session?
Cool.
Interested, but want to ask me a question or maybe have a conversation?
That’s cool too.
Fill out the looking-lovely-in-orange form below. Let me know what want to do. I’ll get back to you with the quickness. And we’ll make it happen.
Disclaimer-ey thing:
I don’t treat, cure or diagnose disease of any kind – physical, psychological or otherwise. I also don’t provide medical or psychological advice.
None of the services I provide are ever intended to be a substitute for proper medical or psychological care. If you require medical or psychological assistance, I encourage you to seek treatment from a qualified medical professional of your choosing. And I encourage you to follow the advice of these professionals at all times.
Work with sacred sound is intended to provide adjunct spiritual support – adjunct as in in addition to, not instead of. And though it can be powerful and transformative, please don’t mistake this work as being a replacement for any existing or future forms of treatment recommended by your doctor, psychologist or other medical professionals.
Sacred sound can’t be, isn’t intended to be and should never be a substitute for professional medical care.
Ever. Under any circumstances. Period.