Comments on: You Are Not Your Stories

By: Fabeku

Fabeku — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:40:49 +0000

@Josiane – You called my blog yummy piece of chocolate cake. Yay! I think you’re totally right about the stories-not-belonging-there thing. The more conscious of them we are – the more we get that they’re stories, and not really the way things are – the more room we have to decide what to do with them. Which is pretty awesome really.

By: Josiane

Josiane — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:16:41 +0000

I have a tendency to keep my faves for last when I’m catching up, so I’m finally getting to your blog – the yummy piece of chocolate cake at the end of the meal!
It’s interesting that you published this as I was on my way to Havi’s retreat, because the words that kept coming back to me during the retreat – and kind of became my theme for the week – were openness and curiosity. You’re so right that being curious about our stories can be crazy helpful! What’s hard, sometimes, is to remember that no, they don’t necessarily *belong* there, but once we get into the habit of observing them with curiosity, it becomes way easier…
Josiane´s last blog ..Taking action instead of resolving to do so

By: Fabeku

Fabeku — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:17:29 +0000

@Juliana – Thanks for your note. And for hanging out. I appreciate it.

By: juliana

juliana — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:44:07 +0000

This is such a great post. I’m loving your style!

Glad I found you (through Twitter, in case you are curious.)
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By: Fabeku

Fabeku — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:24:54 +0000

@Sulwyn – I’m glad the post came at the right time for you. Wrestling stories can be tough. I so get that.

@Karen – Thanks. I appreciate the niceness. Glad the practical stuff was helpful too.

@Andy – I think you’re totally right. There are stories everywhere in our life. Inside us. In our relationships. Our business. Our creativity. Lots of stories. And when there’s dissonance in the equation, stuff can get seriously funky. And sometimes that dissonance can be a much needed heads up to check out the stories.

@Caz – This is a great example of picking up stories that suck. And how deep those stories can go! I’m glad you’re out there offering some new stories. Rock on!

@Linnea – Ooh, I really like your epiphany! And I’m happy to hear my timing was good here. Here’s to new stories of much gorgeousness!

@Michelle – I’m with you. There’s a lot to be said for the gentle approach. Life can be hard enough. Being hard on ourselves just adds more suck.

@Gina – That’s the tricky thing about stories. Not recognizing they’re there. And how much they’re affecting things. And you’re totally right. Changing our stories can change our life in huge ways. Bigs yays for Holy Shit! moments.

@Kim – Wow. The idea of teaching this in schools, and how much this would shift stuff really struck a chord for me. Can you imagine? And can I say wow again?

@Katie – Glad you dug the questions. It’s pretty cool – and kind of amazing – what these simple questions can unlock. It also makes it easier to step out of the chasing-our-tail thing that can happen with story stuff.

@Sharon – Hey! Glad you bumped into my blog. Thanks for saying hi and hanging out. I appreciate both a lot.

@Bridget – I love the taco wrapper idea. Because all stories are helpful at some point. Otherwise we wouldn’t have picked them up. But when they’re not helpful anymore – when the taco is happily swimming in our belly – it’s awesome to let them go. Otherwise helpful turns unhelpful. And we end up carrying around the ack.

Big thanks for all the smartness you guys shared.

By: Bridget

Bridget — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:22:46 +0000

dude- did you hit it on the head with the helpful/not helpful or what?
It’s like we got tacos and then we can’t decide whether to throw away the wrapper.
Well, it came with the taco, but it’s not the taco. But it came with it.
Somebody handed the taco to us in the wrapper. But we ate the taco.
Should we throw away the wrapper?

We do this with stories all the time.
We got the good stuff, should we keep the useless?
Throw away what does not work! or let your cat lick it. or whatever.
Don’t just walk around holding it. It’s garbage! Woo-hoo- awesome.
Bridget´s last blog ..The Animal Communication Experience

By: Sharon Carne

Sharon Carne — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:38:09 +0000

Hi Fabeku,
I am truly grateful I found your blog! Thank you for your wild sense of humor and your deep wisdom.

Hmm. I will take a deeper look at what stories I have been hangin out with lately.

Love and harmony,
Sharon

By: Katie Schroth

Katie Schroth — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:44:09 +0000

You asked: How are the stories you’re hanging out with affecting you?. And also: Is this story helpful or unhelpful?

What amazing questions!! Seemingly simple questions that go really, really deep. In many ways just spending time reflecting on them can be very insightful.

Thanks for asking/sharing these simple, but profound questions.

By: Kim Wood

Kim Wood — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:41:40 +0000

Love this. Love the message and love how you express it.
Fabeku, this teaching should be part of every school curriculum and in the hands and minds of every child. (As well as us pseudo-grown ups, of course.) Stories are hugely powerful – imagine knowing this at 17, 14 or 10….. world changing stuff.

By: Gina

Gina — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:08:12 +0000

I am ALL over this.. untangling the stories, from the personal to the cultural… from Ishamael, to Course in Miracles, to Loving What Is,to The Book(on the taboo against knowing who you really are) – all books I highly recommend for some serious story-busting – and on and on…

We really don’t realize the power our stories have over us and over the quality of our lives. How much would shift for us if we told a different story.

Oh, those ah ha! and Holy shit! moments… love it.
Gina´s last blog ..Antidote for Winter