That one is so seductive. And crazy damaging too. And it seems kind of virus-like too. It’s contagious and ewww.

Totally welcome for the goofy slicing.

And big thanks to your awesome self for all the faboo work you do helping people to say buhbye to that story.

And the fan thing?

Back atcha. Big time.

Thank you for slicing through this in your loving and–dare I say–goofy way.

Your fan always,

Molly
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@Emma – Totally welcome! Glad it had some goodies for you.

@Linnea – Aw, thanks. You are the sweetness!

@Christine (who I always want to call Mizz Blisschick) – Sparkle geek! Rawk! And your position on ninjas has just made you ever more awesome. And I totally didn’t think that was even possible.

@Josiane – I find reminders really helpful too. I figure the more I hear it and say it and hang out with it, the faster I can unhook myself from someone’s ack-ey stories.

@Amy – It can be hard to separate yourself from those stories, can’t it? Some stuff seems to fall away fast. Other stuff feels like it peels off in layers. But I swear the ninjas help it to peel off faster. (That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.)

@Chris – Thanks! I’m glad you dug it. And thanks for the link to Pace + Kyeli’s awesome. It fits purrfectly here!

@Michelle – Yeah, it can take awhile to filter down through the various bits of self. And the ouchier they are, the longer it might take. There are parts of me that still don’t totally get this. But they’re definitely getting there. I think it goes back to that reminders-are-helpful thing.

@Noura – Puffy hearts! Ok, that calls for chocolate. And happy dancing. And yays.

@Simone – Hell to the yes… YES! You make me smile.

@Joan – I love that you’re able to break out the shaky butt in public. That can be so hard to do. And by hard I mean terrifying as hell. But, man, is it awesome. And extra huge yays for not worrying about looking cool or skinny or any of that. Go you! Like Gaga says Just dance! Gonna be okay! Da da doo-doo-mmm!

@Elana – You studied drums? *swoon* We might totally be long lost ninjakin!

@Lucy – Thanks muches. I appreciate that. And it’s awesome that you’re clear enough to get when someone’s stories doesn’t mesh well with your story. Because I think so much of the feeling lost thing happens because we’ve gotten tangled up in someone’s story that isn’t a great fit for us. So very, very cool.

@Sarah – Oh yay! I’m happy to hear the timing was good.

@Christine – I’m so sorry about all of the hard. Big sorries. I think feeling sad and angry is totally normal, given what you’ve experienced. And it’s totally ok too. And, for what it’s worth, I believe that you can definitely shift out of the hard stuff and get back to the gorgeous that is you.

@Joan – Bowls! Drums! A day dedicated to you! Yes, yes, yes. That sounds absosmurfly brilliant!

@Kelly – Ooh, great point! There is this wild fluidity to stories. And, yeah, feelings seem to be a big key to that fluidity. I also totally agree with what you said about how, given the fluid thing, taking care of ourselves becomes even more important.

For me, if I can get my hands on a story about me that I know is true I have something to hold onto when things go up and down. It’s kind of like riding one of those spin-you-around rides. If you have a fixed point to stare at, you get less dizzy.

@Natalia – Thanks! And you’re totally right about the helpfulness of being clear about the inner (and outer) chatter-ey stuff.

Big thanks, as always, for all of your smartness and sharing and general fabulousness. To borrow Noura’s brilliant phrase I puffy heart you all.

Being aware of your internal dialogues is often imperative for self-healing. Nice suggestions for how to tackle these tricky bastards.

Thanks!
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Both those things are true. (Well, okay. True in MY story. But it’s a happy story in this case!)

I’ve had my share of other people having stories about me that didn’t jive with my story… so this was a neat reminder.
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It’s kooky! And yeah kookier, it was drums I studied.

Are you like my long lost ninja half-brother?

Thank you Fabeku!

big sunny smiles! you rock!